- Harvard professor Ronald Ferguson is author of "The Formula: Unlocking the Secrets to Raising Highly Successful Children."
- After becoming fascinated with what parents did to shape his most talented students, he conducted research and determined that there are eight parental roles that make up the formula for master parenting.
- Being an "early learning partner" is the most crucial, he said, which helps kids become excited about gathering new information and succeeding.
- Also being a "philospher" to help kids find themselves on their life journey is important.
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Spotting patterns, , and formulas make our work (and life) easier. But I never thought I'd see someone unlocking the formula for the hardest job of all: .
2020欧洲杯小组赛 professor Ronald Ferguson, author of "," recently told the he's done exactly that.
Ferguson was fascinated with what parents did to shape his talented students. So he and co-author Tatsha Robertson comprehensively studied how different parenting styles shape children's success. Test subjects included the youngest statewide elected official in the country and the mother of the CEOs of YouTube and the genetics company 23andMe.
2020欧洲杯小组赛Eight parental roles that Ferguson says make up the formula for master parenting. "It was like a hidden pattern that gradually revealed itself — a set of widely recognized, well-researched qualities that are the basic success foundations."
Play these eight roles well and you'll ace parenting.
1. The 'early learning partner'
This role has parents getting their child interested in learning at a young age, before they start school. Ferguson calls the early learning partner the most important role of the eight. The most successful kids can read basic words by kindergarten, and experience what Ferguson calls "the early lead effect," where the child responds positively to a teacher's excitement that they can already read.
2. The 'flight engineer'
This is the parent monitoring the child's growth environment, making sure they're getting what they need and intervening when they're not.
2020欧洲杯小组赛This isn't the same as being a helicopter parent, who Ferguson says "are so involved in their children's lives they don't create space for them to develop independent relationships, learn how to negotiate for themselves, or identify their own interests." My wife and I started playing this role when we encountered a teacher that wasn't giving our daughter a fair shake.
3. The 'fixer'
In this role, the parent ensures no key opportunity for their child's betterment is lost — and they don't let a lack of resources slow them down.
2020欧洲杯小组赛As Ferguson says, "The parents might be living in poverty, but if they see an opportunity they judge to be essential for their child's success in school or life, they'll walk through walls to get it."
4. The 'revealer'
2020欧洲杯小组赛Revealer parents help their child discover the world by going to museums, libraries, exhibits, etc. — anything to expand their worldview. Again, this happens even with a lack of resources; revealer parents get creative in how to accommodate such outings. My wife and I have given this one extra focus, since we're fans of experiences over things.
5. The 'philosopher'
Ferguson says this is the second most important role, because it helps children find purpose. Here, the parents ask and answer deep life questions, never underestimating a child's capacity to understand life and grasp the idea of meaning. I've been astonished at how early my daughter grasped these big ideas.
6. The 'model'
2020欧洲杯小组赛This is classic role-modeling. Parents who do this well are clear about which values are important to them and work hard to pass those values on to their children, who then aspire to emulate them. My wife and I try to live our core values each day — but that doesn't mean it comes easy, or that we always succeed.
7. The 'negotiator'
This role teaches the child to be respectful while standing up for themselves and what they believe in (especially in the face of those with power and authority).